Whenever
we meet our family members and friends regularly, we talk to each other,
chit-chat, and gossips about each other freely without any fear and stress. Our
voices never shake, and we never hesitate to say anything. Our mode of
conveying the message remains very informal. We never think of rearranging
words and making sentences to speak with others.
But
when we come across a crowd full of strangers whether they are our class
fellows, teachers, or colleagues, we unconsciously become conscious while
speaking. A stimulus of a strange and novel environment arisen our sense of
being formal and causative in our speech. The fear of getting rejected by
others grips us strongly that we hardly can say anything. This is the fear of
public speaking.
We
are conscious beings, with the blessing of having a sense of feeling that what
happens to us. Some of the actions we do are voluntary and some are
involuntary. When we interact with people, the hormone of excitement increases,
and we start expecting from people a sight of recognition and want to get from
them a sense of dignity. During this process, our sympathetic nervous system
becomes activated, and our ability to reflect and thinking decreases that cause
nervousness and sweating on our hands. We feel like we will never speak again.
A wave of shivering and cold grips us. We feel awkward in the gathering and
want to get rid of this situation immediately.
If fear of public
speaking is a fact, then how some people can easily speak in public without any
hesitation? Well, there is only one answer to that, and that is our upbringing
and the environment in which we grow. From an early age, when a child receives
suppression and pressure from his parents or peers, he never able to get
confidence in life. He always remains a victim of inferiority complex and can
never excel in his life due to lack of public speaking art.
This art is necessary
to learn no matter in what field we are in, whether we are a religious scholar
or school teacher, a leader or mentor of people, this art helps us to groom and
shape others, to influence them, and to get maximum out of them.
This art can be
achieved through gradual practice and through taking training and by
deliberately participating in discussions and debates, through teaching others,
and through presentations and addresses. Once you master this art, nothing will
be unattainable for us because only through this art we can express our true
selves.
First influence yourself, others will
automatically be influenced
Author - Rtr. Nimra Ishaq
Club - Rotaract Club of
UAF, Pakistan.
RID - 3272
1 Comments
No doubt! public speaking is a art and this art can be achieved only through practice
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